Posts by mike.lacinak

Who’s Going First?

Posted by on Aug 14, 2014

Easier and also a waste of time to wait for your partner to make a move first. Easy to calculate. Why invest before they do? Why change if they won’t? This is a recipe for mediocrity, gridlock and avoiding responsibility. It’s a race to the bottom of “I don’t care if you don’t.” It’s a way to be in a relationship you can’t get into or out of. Why go first, invest, risk, change, be vulnerable when I don’t know if I’ll be matched and met. The one who goes first does it because that’s the person they want to be. They don’t...

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